DEAR DEIDRE: I CAN never climax when I have intercourse with my wife, so I worry we are never going to start a family.
I’m 26 and she is 23.
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Neither of us had any sexual experience before getting together.
We have tried intercourse a few times, and while I start off well enough, I suddenly start to feel a numbness and struggle to climax.
I used to masturbate when I was a teenager and I didn’t have this problem back then.
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DEIDRE SAYS: If you were brought up in a family where sex was considered dirty or a taboo subject, then being able to relax when you have intercourse might be difficult for you.
Try speaking to your GP. They can check there is no underlying issue causing this.
The key might be for you both to enjoy lots of foreplay. Only try intercourse when you both feel sufficiently aroused.
My support pack Men Who Can’t Climax has more tips to help.