DEAR DEIDRE: I READ an article in a woman’s magazine about a girl waking up feeling sore with flashbacks to somebody being on top of her – and I realised the same thing has happened to me.
This woman pressed charges for rape and I don’t know whether I should do the same.
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I got drunk at a house party. I’m 19 and just finished my first year in university.
There’s a guy on my course who is always sniffing around me but I’m not interested. I’ve told him so.
I woke up after a party and felt so uncomfortable down below. I couldn’t think what had happened.
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Then I remembered that creep lying on top of me.
I’m in shock. I think I’ve been raped like that other woman.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I am so sorry to hear of your ordeal.
You do need some urgent help over this from a qualified counsellor with whom you can discuss your feelings and what options are open to you.
Contact Rape Crisis for help (rapecrisis.org.uk, 0800 802 9999). You can email instead or there is a web chat service.
If you prefer, you can contact the police, who should assign a specialist officer to help.