DEAR DEIDRE: MY ex wouldn’t explain why he broke up with me.
So when I got drunk, I called him and told him how I’d had sex with another guy.
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The plan worked. He went crazy at first, then came back to me.
We’re both 24 and have been getting on well since.
But the one thing that bothers him is that during the six years we were together before, he was my only sexual partner. Now I’ve had two.
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He won’t stop talking about it. He knows the other guy and is worried about what he might say if he runs into him.
I feel like the hurt he put me through by dumping me has been forgotten and now I’m the one being punished.
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DEIDRE SAYS: If this relationship has got legs, then you must both look to the future rather than dwelling on the past.
You need a frank and honest talk. He needs to explain why he ended things before, and you need to reassure him you have no feelings for this other man.
My support pack, Dealing With Jealousy, will help him with his worries.
Then move on. You both knew that you were losing something good, so don’t ruin your chance of a loving relationship again.